ANXIETY THERAPY · BURBANK & ONLINE IN CALIFORNIA
Anxiety therapy for women who can't turn it off
For the woman who overthinks every conversation, people-pleases her way through the day, and still can't relax when it's finally quiet.
You don't have to keep living on high alert.
IN-PERSON IN BURBANK, CA
ONLINE ACROSS CALIFORNIA
Does this sound familiar?
Your anxiety has a pattern. See if you recognize yours.
01 Your mind replays conversations on a loop. You analyze the text, the tone, the pause — long after everyone else has moved on
02 You say yes when you mean no. Then feel the guilt either way, so you just keep carrying it
03 You look calm, but you never actually relax. Even rest feels like something you have to earn first
04 You hold yourself to a standard no one could meet. And when you fall short, the self-criticism gets loud
05 You feel responsible for how everyone else feels. Their disappointment lands on you like it's proof you did something wrong
06 You're tired of holding it all together. Capable on the outside, stretched thin underneath it
What anxiety looks like
It doesn't always look like panic. Sometimes it looks like responsibility.
IN YOUR MIND
The loop that won't quit
Racing thoughts, worst-case planning, replaying what you said, bracing for what might happen next. Your brain calls it being prepared. It feels like never being off duty.
IN YOUR BODY
Tension you stop noticing
Tight shoulders, a clenched jaw, shallow breathing, trouble sleeping, a stomach that knots before ordinary things. Anxiety lives in the body, not just the mind.
IN YOUR LIFE
Over-functioning, quietly
Overcommitting, people-pleasing, perfectionism, needing reassurance and still not feeling sure. From the outside it looks like you have it together. Inside, it costs you.
High-functioning anxiety is easy to miss — especially in women who've learned to be the steady one.
You can be anxious and accomplished.
Anxious and loved.
Anxious and still be the person everyone leans on.
None of that means you have to keep carrying it alone.
When anxiety looks like people-pleasing
Why saying no feels so hard — and what it's actually costing you
There’s a name for this pattern: people-pleasing. It’s anxiety in its most polite form — the belief that if everyone is okay with you, nothing can go wrong. The problem is the price: you’re the one who can’t ever relax.
It looks like this:
• Saying yes before you’ve even heard the whole question
• Re-reading a text five times before you send it — then replaying the conversation for hours after
• Tracking everyone’s mood like it’s your job
• Apologizing when nothing is wrong
• Feeling responsible for other people’s feelings, needs, and outcomes
• Guilt that feels like proof you did something wrong
You learned to be good to stay safe — and it worked.
So you soften it. You over-explain it. You make it easy for everyone else, and you carry the part that’s hard — because a no feels like risk. But a boundary isn’t a betrayal. It’s honesty, said out loud, before resentment has to say it for you.
Here’s the part nobody names: every yes you don’t mean plants a seed of resentment. It grows quietly — into exhaustion, irritability, distance, that flat feeling of I don’t even know what I want anymore. Resentment isn’t a character flaw. It’s information: you’ve been giving from a place that was already empty.
In therapy, we don’t start with a script for hard conversations. We start underneath — with the anxiety that makes honesty feel dangerous in the first place.
How therapy helps
Not just coping better. Actually living different.
✓ Understand what your anxiety is doing
Anxiety usually developed for a reason — to keep you prepared, approved of, or safe. We get curious about it instead of just fighting it.
✓ Quiet the overthinking loop
Learn to notice spiraling earlier, challenge the loudest thoughts, and make decisions without polling five people first.
✓ Calm your body, not just your mind
Because willpower doesn't reach a nervous system on high alert. We work with breath, grounding, and the physical side of anxiety too.
✓ Say what you actually mean
Practice honesty and boundaries in a room where you don't have to perform being fine — so it gets easier everywhere else.
✓ Loosen perfectionism's grip
Rest without earning it. Let something be good enough. Trust that your worth was never in the output.
✓ Feel like yourself again
Not a calmer performance of you — actually you. Lighter, clearer, and less organized around avoiding discomfort.
My approach to anxiety therapy
Grounded, warm, and not one-size-fits-all — we use what actually helps you
I don't believe you're broken. I believe many of the patterns you're struggling with developed for a reason. So we don't just manage symptoms — we understand what's underneath them, with compassion, and build something more honest in their place. I draw from four approaches and blend them around you, not the other way around.
Eye-Movement Desensitization Reprocessing
EMDR
Helps your brain reprocess experiences that still feel stuck — the early moments that taught you to brace, perform, or stay small — so they lose their charge in the present.
You can read more about how EMDR works and what sessions look like here.
CBT & ACT
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy & Acceptance and Commitment Therapy
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy helps you catch the thought spirals that keep anxiety looping — and practice talking back to them with what's actually true. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy picks up where that leaves off: instead of wrestling your anxious feelings into submission, you learn to make room for them while moving toward the life you want anyway.
IFS - Parts Work
Internal Family Systems
Makes sense of the inner tug-of-war: the part that people-pleases, the part that's exhausted, the part that's scared to stop. No part of you is the problem.
Mind-body
Mind-body approaches
Anxiety lives in the body, so we work there too: breath, grounding, and learning what calm actually feels like when you've forgotten. Faith can be part of this work if you want it — always your choice.
What to expect
No diving into the deep end on day one
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We start with a conversation
We begin with a free 15-minute consultation — a real conversation about what's bringing you in. You can ask me anything, and we decide together whether we're the right fit. No pressure, and no commitment.
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We look at the pattern, not just the symptoms
Before we change anything, we get curious: what sets your anxiety off, what it costs you, and what it's been trying to protect you from. Most women have fought their anxiety for years without anyone slowing down to map how it actually works.
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Change you can feel in real life
Then we build, session by session — catching spirals earlier, saying the honest thing, resting without the guilt spiral after. The goal isn't a calmer performance. It's a life that actually feels quieter inside.
Sessions are 55 minutes · $225 per session · self-pay · In person in Burbank · online across California
Anxiety isn't a character flaw.
It's your nervous system trying to keep you safe — and we can help you learn a new way to feel safe.
A few questions before we begin
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Yes — even long-standing anxiety can shift. Your nervous system learned these patterns over years, so it takes time to learn new ones. But "I've always been this way" doesn't mean you'll always be.
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You don't have to arrive calm. Plenty of my clients show up with their shoulders up around their ears. We'll start where you are — part of the work is learning that you don't have to earn rest by first being perfectly relaxed.
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No. Breathing exercises have their place, but if deep breathing fixed anxiety, you'd have figured that out from a YouTube video. We go deeper — to the patterns underneath, the ones running the show when you're not looking.
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Especially then. High-functioning anxiety is still anxiety — it's just wearing a good disguise. The fact that you're holding it together doesn't mean you're okay, and you don't have to wait until you fall apart to get help.
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Everything. The perfectionism, the people-pleasing — those were strategies. Ways to stay safe, stay liked, stay in control. The anxiety is what they cost you. In our work, we don't just treat the anxiety on top — we look at the whole pattern underneath it.
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Honestly? The bar is much lower than you think. There's no severity threshold you have to clear first. If anxiety is costing you sleep, energy, peace, or presence in your own life, that's enough — you don't have to wait for it to get worse before you're allowed help.
You Don't Have to Do This Alone
Even if reaching out feels uncomfortable.
Even if you've been carrying this for a long time.
Even if you're not sure where to start.
You don't have to have it all figured out before beginning.
I'd be honored to walk alongside you as you move toward greater healing, self-understanding, and growth.