Trauma Therapy in Burbank CA
This quote is how I have come to understand trauma, what it’s doing, and why it’s important to not just know the details, but ultimately the story of what has happened to us, what it means, and how we heal from it.
Trauma makes living in the moment so incredibly difficult because we are always on edge, always anticipating and waiting for the next bad thing to happen, and always looking at the world through a lens that is unsafe.
Treating trauma is not just retelling the events, it’s exploring new ways of relating to the story, about changing its meaning, and finding ways of freedom to become fully alive in the present.
Trauma isn’t just “life was hard.”
Trauma is something that has happened to you, maybe many different events, maybe just one significant one, that was so meaningful that your whole brain, body, emotions, and beliefs, froze in that moment. You’re not able to move forward, you’re not able to find freedom.
The here and now doesn’t really exist because what happened and what might happen has hijacked your whole system.
Someone who has experienced a traumatic event or a lifetime of events, continues to remain stuck- in the past, in their beliefs, in their emotions, in their thoughts, in their relationships, in how they see themselves and the world, in their patterns.
They feel constantly on edge; can’t seem to trust themselves fully; they see the world as a scary place; they start to overthink, become people pleasers, lack intimacy in their lives, and feel they have lost hope and purpose. They become easily reactive, maybing losing control over their actions/words/thoughts.
They might be depressed, finding themselves with low energy to engage in their life, a sense of hopelessness, lacking meaning and purpose. They feel aimless, repeating patterns of behavior and hating themselves for it.
You may say to yourself...
“What is happening to me?”
“Why can’t I just get over it?” “Everybody tells me, ‘that was so long ago, get over it already!’ so why can’t I?”
“I’m a loser for letting what happened all those years ago impact my life.”
“I should be stronger than this.” “It wasn’t a big deal, why can’t I get the thoughts/nightmares to stop?” “I’m weak.” “I’m so stupid.”
It's not just about letting go of the past - but about reclaiming your life, finding hope, building better relationships, and becoming more than what has happened to you.
Whether it's your first time seeking therapy or you've tried before, the path to healing begins with taking that first brave step.
Kellie Murry, LPCC.
#8755 Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor