Fighting for Simplicity
Fighting for Simplicity: Finding Calm in a Chaotic World
Simplicity. Ease. Clarity.
Just reading those words can make your body relax for a moment.
But most days, life feels anything but simple.
We wake up already feeling behind—rushing, juggling, checking messages, and managing endless to-do lists. The constant pressure to do it all, be it all, and keep everyone happy can leave us feeling anxious, disconnected, and deeply exhausted. It feels like everything is a battle and all you feel is that you're losing.
If you’ve ever thought,“Why does everything feel so complicated?”— you’re not alone. Many of my therapy clients—especially women navigating anxiety, trauma, and perfectionism—share the same struggle.
Why Life Feels So Overwhelming
Our nervous systems were never designed to process this much input.
On average, we consume about 74 gigabytes of information every day—the equivalent of watching 16 full-length movies in our heads. Every sound, smell, text, or notification gets filtered through the same system that evolved to detect threats and keep us safe.
Your brain is constantly asking:
“Am I okay?”
“Do I need to do something?”
“Am I safe right now?”
No wonder so many of us live in a constant state of anxiety, overwhelm, and stress. It’s too much information, too many choices, too much pressure to get everything “right.”
This ongoing overload can keep us stuck in survival mode—shutting down, numbing out, or over-functioning just to make it through the day.
The Healing Power of Simplicity
While we can’t control the noise of the outside world, wecancreate simplicity and calm within our own lives.
Simplicity is an act of self-care.
It’s not about having a perfectly curated life—it’s about creating space for peace, presence, and healing.
When we simplify, we tell our nervous system:You’re safe. You don’t have to do everything.
Simplicity is also a trauma-informed practice. When life feels smaller, slower, and more intentional, your body begins to relax. That sense of calm allows your system to heal from anxiety and chronic stress.
But simplicity doesn’t happen by accident—it’s something we have to fight for.
What Fighting for Simplicity Looks Like
So how do we begin?
By becoming more intentional and reducing decision fatigue.
Try setting small, practical boundaries that protect your peace:
Simplify your wardrobe.Keep only the clothes you actually love and feel good in. Decision fatigue is real.
Reduce digital noise.Turn off unnecessary notifications. Keep your phone out of reach during meals or before bed.
Limit your options.Choose just 2–3 stores for shopping or set a 15-minute timer when browsing online.
Streamline your meals.Create a list of go-to dinners—repeat them without guilt. (Pasta night every Wednesday? Perfect.)
Be intentional with entertainment.Make a “To Watch” or “To Read” list so you spend less time scrolling and more time relaxing.
Simplify your spending.Create a budget that reflects your values and reduces financial stress.
Honor your values.Spend your time and energy on what truly nourishes you—not what social media tells you to care about.
These small choices may seem simple, but they’re powerful. They help reduce the noise that feeds anxiety and overwhelm, and they make more space for what really matters—connection, healing, and rest.
Therapy Can Help You Find Simplicity and Peace
If you’re struggling with anxiety, trauma, people-pleasing, or perfectionism, therapy can help you slow down, reconnect with yourself, and begin to heal.
In therapy, we work to understand the patterns that keep you in overwhelm—and learn how to regulate your nervous system so that calm feels possible again.
You don’t have to navigate this alone.
If this message resonates with you, I invite you to schedule a free 15-minute consultation call. Together, we can explore how trauma-informed therapy can help you create more simplicity, ease, and balance in your life.
